JILL Duggar and her husband Derick Dillard have shared their goals for raising “independent” daughters who don’t need to rely on a husband, despite growing up in homes of modesty.
Former Counting On star Jill has made substantial leaps from her parents’ strict rulings, by incorporating modern parenting techniques into her life.
Jill, 29, shared a new YouTube video over the weekend where she and her husband answered fan questions relating to “Family, Science & Enneagrams!”
The ex reality stars spoke candidly about their parenting ideals, including how they will raise daughters if they one day expand their family.
“If you ever have a daughter, will you raise her not to have to rely on a man?” one fan inquired.
Derick replied: “Yes, that’s important, regardless if you have a son or daughter.
“I think we would raise both of them to be as independent as possible. We don’t want like 30-year-old kids living in our basement not being productive.”
Jill then chimed in, adding: “I think it’s good for their own health too and wellbeing and everything too.”
The father of two then shared his sentiment towards helping children achieve their “goals,” and regaled situations where individuals might need more “flexibility” than just being a “stay at home mom.”
“Or if you want to be a working mom or whatever, it’s just helpful. Or a working wife or no kids,” Jill contributed.
The pair then offered their support for a potential daughter having a serious career such as being an “engineer.”
“Whatever floats your boat,” the young mom offered, though Derick disagreed as he laughed and said, “Not whatever floats your boat.
“We aren’t going to be like ‘oh go be a stripper,'” he joked.
Jill reasoned: “You don’t want to raise somebody to have to be reliant upon anyone really. It’s good to have a healthy level of independence, that’s the bottom line.”
Jill and Derick are parents to two boys, 5-year-old Israel and 3-year-old Samuel.
The couple have publicly rebelled against their fundamentalist families over the last few years, following their decision to quit the TLC show.
They have been far more open to modern ideas, as Jill has started wearing pants, drinking alcohol, and talking candidly about her sex life with fans.
In the same video, the duo discussed Jill’s estranged relationship with her parents, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, as she’s departed from their strict Christian values.
“Do ya’ll ever visit the big house?” a follower asked, to which she responded: “The big house is my parent’s house.
“Not much, we actually haven’t been over there in a while, probably like a couple years, other than once to check the mail.
“But yeah there’s some restrictions, but also we just feel like in this season of life we have to prioritize our like mental and emotional health and all that.”
She continued: “Our threshold, as I like to call it is just a little bit lower in this season of life for us with a lot going on in our own life.”
Derick added his own opinion, claiming: “There’s a lot of triggers there.”
“Plus Covid just makes it a lot harder right now with trying to keep our circle smaller and everything,” Jill finished.
